Is It Time To Stop Saying 'Fake It Till You Make It'?

Quit with the doubting and start believing: confident women are made, not born.

- Morgan Reardon.

Confession: I’m often the fakest gal in a room. Not in the boob job, Botox, Barbie-kinda-way (although no disrespect if you are). I say ‘fake’ because the outward confidence I’m oozing, and carefree nature I portray is really a complete front; inside, I’m freaking out and second-guessing everything, from my outfit and hairstyle to whether anyone noticed me grabbing that third mozzarella stick. And it’s not just me. When I brought this issue up with my friends, most of them admitted they’re guilty of it, too. Turns out they’ve been faking it at work, on dates...even at parties and family events. Why, ladies, why?

Ever since we were little, we’ve been told to ‘fake it till you make it’. I’m sure the people who fed us this little pearl of wisdom had the best intentions but, unfortunately, somewhere along the way, somebody forgot to teach us how to actually feel.

“Instead of telling people to fake it, I always prefer to tell them to make it,” says Australia-based performance transformation expert, Dr Vesna Grubacevic (qttransformation.com). “I believe the only thing that differentiates a highly confident and successful person from someone who isn’t is what each of them think of themselves.”