My Boyfriend Is White And Rich. I'm Neither
GLAMOUR South Africa|October 2018

There we were, eight months after our first date, driving to my boyfriend’s family’s holiday house for a week-long visit.

Reniqua Allen
My Boyfriend Is White And Rich. I'm Neither

We were like the interracial couple in the film Get Out: I was a young black woman, riding in my boyfriend’s Toyota Prius to one of the whitest places in the country, not knowing what to expect. I was nervous about meeting his family for the first time, but as a woman of colour with middle class roots, I also worried how I would fit in with people who were not just white, but upper-class with Ivy League degrees.

I imagined being alone in the dark woods with limited WiFi service, surrounded by stacks of old and well-off white people. My career as a journalist covering politics and policy had given me a glimpse into this upper-crust world, but that wasn’t the same as dating into it. As we drove on, I wondered whether I would somehow end up in the ‘sunken place’ or, more likely, a place that felt just as lonely, isolated and distant.

When I first met Peter through a dating app, I didn’t know anything about his background. What attracted me was how similar we seemed: he had a post-grad degree, a commitment to social justice, parents who never married and chronic lateness issues. We had a good first date at a random bar in the city, until he took me up on my less-than-sincere offer to split the bill. I wondered whether or not to go out with him again (I’m a modern woman, but I still believe that if a man asks you out on a first date, he should pay). In the end, I decided it made zero sense to penalise someone for being broke, which I convinced myself Peter was. He was a school teacher who lived in a studio apartment. He talked about Marxism and socialism, and believed in a revolution for the working class.

هذه القصة مأخوذة من طبعة October 2018 من GLAMOUR South Africa.

ابدأ النسخة التجريبية المجانية من Magzter GOLD لمدة 7 أيام للوصول إلى آلاف القصص المتميزة المنسقة وأكثر من 9,000 مجلة وصحيفة.

هذه القصة مأخوذة من طبعة October 2018 من GLAMOUR South Africa.

ابدأ النسخة التجريبية المجانية من Magzter GOLD لمدة 7 أيام للوصول إلى آلاف القصص المتميزة المنسقة وأكثر من 9,000 مجلة وصحيفة.

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