Q love: THE 4 QUESTIONS TO SOLVE EVERY RELATIONSHIP ISSUE

As a life coach working with thousands of clients over the last decade, I've found that almost every single person had some kind of significant relationship pain in their life. In the process of helping them solve these issues, four questions, used in this specific order has proven to be the ultimate recipe for resolution.

- Jaemin Frazer

These questions are so effective because they utilize all 5 elements of the leverage model. Here is how they work:

1. Do you love me?

Most relationship conflict happens entirely on the lowest level of disagreement; that is to battle about the things you are least likely to ever agree about.

Resolving conflict from this level is impossible. You are positioned as enemies on opposing teams and therefore must fight to the death. There can only be one winner.

However, if you take a breath and begin with the highest common agreement instead, this instantly positions you on the same team and allows you to negotiate as friends helping each other achieve the best outcome. Peace becomes possible only through discovering that at the highest level, both sides want exactly the same thing.

Question 1 is aimed at helping people at war move to this high-level agreement as quickly as possible before things descend into chaos. What is the most important thing that we totally agree about?

'Do you love me?'

'Yeah of course. Do you love me?'

'I do. You know I do!'

'Well then, what the heck are we doing to each other?'