12 Steps to being back to Friends with your Ex-Lover

Strange are the labyrinths of the human mind that we want no chaos. But aren’t we a part of a drama, Called life, already!
 

- Usha Lakr

That day was no different. While strutting my lazy stuff (what do you expect after nine hours of slogging) late in the evening at one of the busiest metros of the city, I saw a jolly face, waving at me enthusiastically. “Is that me?” I wondered! And soon, the suspense got over. The lanky frame was one-minute away, and I could recognize him. I just wanted to go and hug him, saying, “Oh it’s you!”He was no one else, but my former boyfriend. A boy whom I dated during my college days, a boy who was my first love, a boy with whom I parted ways mutually! A boy who was my buddy before being a beau! It’s been seven years since then, and his jaded memories have been faded by now. “You are not going to talk to him ever,” that was the promise I made to myself. Seriously! Here I was, all zappy, perky, talking to him with not an iota of regret. It just felt like a fun meeting. We talked for like fifteen minutes and it was all la la blah blah. I was smiling, he was laughing! What was the universe conspiring? Holy crap!

Later, I asked myself, can we really get talking to our exes? We break up due to differences and conflicts, and that causes the major canyon rift. And like most of us like to call it, it’s “ugly”. So, how to make that ugly, beautiful?Does the answer lies within us! Yes, the journey starts from you!

1 Go ahead!

When a relationship ends, you are bogged down by all sorts of negativities. “What if! Why not! Why me! I am done! I am tired!” – all these sorts of vague thoughts occupy your mind. De-clutter!

2 Free yourself!