Q&A

If your relationship is based on personal need, it may not last long. once the need is fulfilled, on a physical level or on an emotional level, the mind will look for something else and go somewhere else. If your relationship is from the level of sharing, then it can last longer.

Q: Why do we lose our freedom and lightness as soon as a relationship gets deeper?

Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: You don’t need to. A relationship should come from a space of contributing, not demanding, then it will be nurturing. In every relationship, if we think, “What can I take from this person, or get from this person” then it’s going to be very disturbing. But when you come from the attitude that, “I am going to be a part of this person, give whatever I can, and contribute whatever I can, to this person’s life”, then it lasts longer.

Q: I am not sure if I am with the right partner. What do I do?

Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: See, if your relationship is based on personal need, it may not last long. Once the need is fulfilled, on a physical level or on an emotional level, the mind will look for something else and go somewhere else. If your relationship is from the level of sharing, then it can last longer.

When you are looking for security, love and comfort from your partner, you become weak. All the negative emotions come up and you become demanding, and demand destroys love. If we just know this one thing, we could save our love from getting rotten.

Q: How do you bring peace to a relationship with a lot of conflict and arguments?

Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:

There are two ways to handle it: