Sex Q+A?

Choose-your-own-(naughty!)-answers edition

- Julie Vadnal

How can my partner and I make kissing feel exciting again?

1 Have a “sex day” when all that’s on the menu is lots of nudity and kisses all over each other. “There’s this idea that if something’s planned, it can’t feel spontaneous, and that’s not true,” says clinical sexologist Dawn Michael, PhD.

2 Next time your S.O. is making coffee in the morning, hug them from behind unexpectedly and start nibbling on their ear before turning their face toward yours.

3 Take a detour to a secluded spot on your drive home. Run the tip of your tongue in a circle around their lips before pressing it into their mouth.

The dude I just started seeing says he wants to finish on my face. How do I respond?

1 He probably got the idea from watching porn, says Michael. Bring him back to reality by asking, “Why do you think I would want to do that?”

2 Say, “If there ever comes a point when I’m interested in that, I’ll let you know. Until then, let’s try this.” Then steer him in a direction you’re more comfortable with.

3 Shut him down with a joke, like: “I’d prefer a more skin-friendly facial at a salon, thanks.” (For real, though, his semen can sting if it gets in your eyes.)