‘I Want To Have Sex All Night Long… Just Not With My Husband'

Men want sex with lots of women while women are made for monogamy, right? Wrong, says Wednesday Martin especially now that its easier than ever to cheat

- Wednesday Martin

ANNIKA IS A SUBURBAN 30-something mum. She is also a serial cheater. The reason, she explains, is, ‘You miss that thing where you’re excited. It’s so new, and you can’t eat or sleep, you’re having such an intense time emotionally and sexually with this entirely new person. That’s what I kept going after. I couldn’t say no.’

Annika, who is warm and engaging, with messy blonde hair, met her husband, Dan, when they were students. Even at the start, it was apparent that Dan had a lower libido. ‘I felt like I initiated sex almost all the time, and that made me self-conscious,’ she admits. Yet the time they spent together – cooking, hiking, having deep conversations – seemed to outweigh this.

But several months later, during the summer holidays, when Dan was working and Annika went travelling, she started sleeping with other men. This continued after they had graduated and moved in together. ‘We never discussed it but Dan not wanting sex made me feel undesirable. He said it was because he had low testosterone, or because he was tired. So I had sex with men I met through work or at a party. I felt I deserved to have a sex life.’