6 Promises To Bring You Closer To Your Spouse

Six promises that will bring you closer together for life.

A vow is a statement of intention that’s a blueprint for action. It isn’t a static statement like “I’ll love you forever.” Vows are commitments to specific behaviours to practice every day.

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, thinking about the kind of behaviours that nurture love can help you build a better union. Though it may seem that love is an effortless grace that will last forever, sustaining it takes conscious effort.

Here are examples of vows to help you put love into action.

1 “I vow not to go to bed angry” After a juicy fight, it’s tempting to hole up and nurse your grievances, or at least turn your back on your partner and fall asleep in your own little cocoon of misery.

But research suggests that making an overture at reconciliation is a much better plan. A couple’s ability to bridge the gap after a squabble is one of the keys to lasting relationship. And as much as you love one another, there are bound to be times when you get miffed. Even a simple statement such as, “I feel so anxious when we’re at odds. How are you doing?” can turn a disagreement around.

On the other hand, if you’re really at fault, an apology is the best possible bridge between two hearts.

2 “I vow to keep our romance going – even when I’m not feeling romantic” Sheela was stressed by the toll motherhood was taking on her marriage. She and her husband, Mahesh, had been together for 10 years before their daughter was born, and they loved going out to restaurants, movies, and clubs. But when they had Rina, their priorities shifted.