The Closer I Get To You

What is attachment parenting? We discuss this concept and its benefits for both parents and baby

- Sally Michener

Some believe the best way to achieve the proper fit between parents and child is to practise a parenting style called ‘attachment parenting’. This is a way of caring that brings out the best in both parents and their baby.

Don’t expect to learn everything at once. Parenting is a learn-as-you-go profession; it takes hands-on experience. These suggestions are just starter tips. From these basics, you’ll grow and develop your own style, one that best fits your baby’s temperament and your personality.

Also, there’s no way you can completely decide on a parenting style before you have a baby. Determining how much to hold your baby, what you’ll do when she wakes at 3 a.m., and how long you’ll breastfeed requires on-the-job training. Reserve these decisions until you see what your baby is like.

THE 7 BS OF ATTACHMENT PARENTING

There are three goals that are seen as important for beginner parents:

• To know your child

• To help your child feel right

• To enjoy parenting

The style of parenting discussed here helps you achieve these goals. Here are the seven concepts that make up attachment parenting:

1. Birth bonding—Connect with baby early

The way baby and parents get started with one another often sets the tone of how this early attachment unfolds. Take an active role in orchestrating the birth you want. Take responsibility for your birth, educate yourself, and work out a birthing philosophy with your obstetrician or birth attendant. Feeling good about the birth carries over into feeling good about your baby.