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He wants casual – I want commitment

Q Newly divorced, I’ve enjoyed dating and found a lovely man to spend time with. We’ve met every Saturday for ages now and had some great times together. We also have great sex, and have really built a strong relationship. Or so I thought. That’s because, last weekend, when I started to talk about the next steps in our commitment, he immediately backed off. He’s now saying that he’s always seen our meetings as ‘casual’ and was never interested in it becoming something ‘serious’. I’m absolutely devastated and don’t know what to do.

SUSAN SAYS

A Sadly, this is a misunderstanding. Because you met regularly and had sex together, you believed you and your friend were involved. Because you met only once a week, your friend believed you weren’t involved, even though you had sex together. There’s clearly no future here, so don’t hang on in hope but end things now. And in future, to avoid disappointment, swap notes with a sexual partner so you both agree on what’s happening between you. If you feel you need to talk directly to someone, then Relate (relate.org.uk) offers webcam, telephone and live chat services, 0300 0030 396.

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