One Track Mind

Rein in all those buzz-killing thoughts and have the best orgasm ever withthese tips on mindful sex from Chirag Mohanty Samal.

- Chirag Mohanty Samal

You’re thinking about tomorrow’s to-do list, what you want for dinner and that looming dentist assignment—and before you know it, he’s done and snoring, and you’re trying to remember the last time you orgasmed. Those innocent, little humdrum thoughts are actually sabotaging your sex life. Dr Mahesh Nawal, president of the Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists, says, “Today, we’re so used to multitasking that even during sex, our mind doesn’t stop. Unless your mind and body are in sync, you will never enjoy sex.”

In 2011, researchers at Brown University, US, found that women who practised mindfulness during sex got more aroused—and faster— compared to women who didn’t. According to Gina Silverstein, the study’s lead author, mindful sex involves being able to experience the sensations taking place in your body and mind, making it easier to ‘turn off autopilot mode’.