Date Like A Boss

Being More Intentional About The Way To Find The Right Partner Can Be An Instant Game Changer.

- Charli Penn

The dating scene is a lot. We get it. Why is ghosting even allowed to be a thing?! Looking for love can be overwhelming and frustrating and can seem more like a second job. The search can also make a woman feel powerless. “Women have been told for so long to sit on their hands and wait for someone else to approach them,” says Alexandra Williamson, the chief brand officer at Bumble, the popular dating app that lets women take the lead. “We’ve been told that going after what we want or asking for a phone number means we’re ‘needy.’ That’s such an antiquated idea.” The truth is, being a go-getter when it comes to matters of the heart can pay off. Just ask tennis champ and Bumble spokeswoman Serena Williams, who made the first move with her now husband, Alexis Ohanian, when she invited him to see her play. Williams isn’t the only star who found love after grabbing the wheel. Singer Marsha Ambrosious first noticed Dez Billups when he was working as a roadie on the 2015 Floetry reunion tour. Intrigued, Ambrosious asked him out on a date. The couple—who welcomed their daughter, Nyla, in 2016 and married a year later—have been together ever since.

Women often find The One simply because they have set things in motion. For straight couples who use The League app, which scouts comparable candidates based on education level and ambition, one out of every three relationships began with a woman messaging first. That’s right, ladies. The ball really is in your court.