The War On Bad Sex

Pleasure-less sex isn’t bad luck – it’s a bad lay. Now, a revolutionary army of female celebrities and educators want the penis-first attitude eliminated.

- Gemma Askham

Designer bag or a shoddy fake? It’s a no-brainer. Yet for years, women have been invited into the designer store, shown the goods, and just as their excitement was building – bam – they’ve been thrown out empty-handed or directed towards a second-rate fake. While men? Men have been barging in and claiming the designer goods every single time.

To bring it back from bags to bits: “Our sexual culture is toxic to the female orgasm,” says Trisha Borowicz, a molecular biologist who directed indie documentary Science, Sex & the Ladies to debunk the “tons of confusion” about female pleasure. “The silence around the clitoris – omitted from sex education in a way that male orgasm and the penis are not – and the ridiculous expectation that women should orgasm through intercourse have become part of our sexuality. We were bathed from birth in the misconceptions that women were sexually lesser than men.”

Now, a generation after the sexual revolution of the ’60s to ’80s – a time that normalised contraception and sexual expansion beyond a hetero label – change is hitting mattresses. “Those ’70s feminists gave us higher hopes that we could enjoy our sexuality, but actual experiences have not reflected that. We’re now finally starting to talk and dissect it,” says Trisha.