Stop Being A Modern Slave

Personal Development

Are you one of those helpful persons who are now facing the following problems like - You have become a doormat or a bellboy to others. You are unable and unwilling to say no. People take you for granted. You are endlessly running errands for others. Everyone’s urgencies are your emergencies. All your time, money, and effort is spent on helping others. You have become a cart-horse by taking on everyone’s load. You have to take permission from your husband, wife, or other family members to buy the things you love with your own money, or eat the dishes you like, wear the clothes you like, sleep an extra hour, and so on.

If you say yes to one or more of the above statements, then you are not alone. Millions of people worldwide, especially breadwinners, are in the same boat unable and unwilling to escape. But there comes a time in everyone’s life when you have to decide to put a full stop to many things, decide who stays and who goes out of your life, stop being a doormat, and start living for yourself without any guilt or regret. Here are six steps that will show you how.

Step-1: Start saying NO. Now you may ask to whom you should say no. The answer is to all those capable folks who think that you are always available to help them, carry out errands, and think that you are their bellboy. For example, it's quite common for spouses, children, relatives, neighbors, and certain friends to invent or extract some work from you the moment they see you. They take you for granted and expect you to be their free errand boy all the time. Even when you come home exhausted they will gleefully dump half a dozen activities on you though they can do many of those tasks themselves. Have you observed this? In India, we call this as the concept of being unable to walk as soon as you see a horse carriage.