Love In Six Shades That Mirror Men In Love

Like the sky transitioning through time, love changes its shades. Acknowledge the transition rather than evaluate it. Take it from an expert

- Sanil Sachar

LOVE IS a lethal weapon when utilised incorrectly and the most effective medicine when used with pure intent”, as said by the man at the bar. These words echo each time I have to define love. Said to me while I waited for my beer after a long day of writing during my travels. It wasn’t a lover who said this to me, and neither was it a philosopher but a stranger who waited for his friends in a crowded bar. His engagement had just been called off and from thereon began the uphill battle it would take for him to make peace with love, and every shade of it.

When we think of love, we immediately associate it with a person who inevitably earn unsaid control over us. This has both healthy and unhealthy boundaries. The way to control it is by realising that love is not the end but the beginning of what follows. Like the sky transitioning through time, even love changes its shades. Acknowledge the transition rather than evaluate love.

Here is love in six shades that mirror men and love (or men in love).

MUSE: Chasing something we desire is often exciting! Psychology might not state it like this, but I want you to think of when you wished for something. How far did you go for it? A muse when it is a person should NEVER be related to this chase. Simply because in the pursuit of securing love, we create a larger-than-life image in our heads which makes the reality often a sliver of our perception.

This is the first step before a relationship but the way to let reality and expectations sit on the same rollercoaster is by letting a muse be the idea of ‘if ’ it will be and not the perception of ‘how’ it will be.