The concept of bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadomasochism (BDSM) isn’t brushed under the rug anymore. With Fifty Shades Of Grey bringing BDSM to the mainstream, couples are no longer shying away from including it during a session between the sheets. More often than not, sex is always exciting in the beginning when partners are getting to know each other, but with time partners often go down the vanilla sex route, and may be looking at introducing the kink factor to spice things up. That’s where BDSM comes into play. Here are some ways to get a reluctant partner to try it.
Dispel misconceptions
BDSM can be as basic or intense as both partners want it to be. Maria D’ Mello, a Chennai-based relationship counsellor says, “The common myth surrounding BDSM is that it is heavy-duty, and all about sex toys, pain, and dominance. That couldn’t be further from the truth. While those are all part of the experience, BDSM could also mean role-play, just being blindfolded while having sex, or talking dirty during the experience.” If your SO believes that this entails being rough in the bedroom, spanking or being spanked, choking or whipping, it’s time to set the record straight and educate yourselves on how to be kinky within the boundaries of comfort.
Take it slow
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