The Realities Of Modern Love
Her World Singapore|October 2023
While we often hear about charming meet-cutes and quirky tales of soulmates connecting through unconventional means like Duolingo, the truth is that most of us will encounter numerous road bumps before finding the one’. Her World's features writer, 25-year-old Cheryl Lai-Lim, sheds light on navigating today’s complex and frustrating) world of dating.
The Realities Of Modern Love

It’s 7.30pm on a Saturday night, and I’m on my first date with Jack*, a 29-year-old finance executive.

Jack and I have only met once at a mutual friend’s party, where we exchanged contacts. We’ve been casually texting back and forth since, but the banter is nothing much to write home about (that should have been my first warning).

All is well for the first few minutes as we settle in at a cosy Japanese restaurant nestled in Amoy Street, get the small talk out of the way, and order our main courses. And then: Jack begins recounting his dating life in painstaking detail. Starting with his “first real girlfriend who was chill, but it got quite boring after a while” when he was 18. As the night proceeds, the list grows longer. At one point, between his third “huge K-pop fan which, to be honest, wasn’t a big deal at the start, until it turned out she was maniacally obsessed” (this is not verbatim, of course, because I had tuned out by this point) and fourth situationship, I ask what he’s interested in doing in his free time.

“Oh, we can talk about that later,” he dismisses my question, picking up a slice of aburi salmon belly and slurping it up, before continuing his chronological report of his dating life. Lovely.

This monologue lasts until his last bite of the main course (I’ve already devoured my beef donburi since, well, there isn’t exactly a conversation).

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