Stop FAMILY FALL-OUTS

Don't let squabbles spoil your time away. Our expert tips will help keep the peace

We’ve all been there – busy getting ready for a summer break, but there’s a mountain of washing to do, the in-laws are bickering and your partner still hasn’t started their packing. What do you do? Enter a slanging match that ends with nothing resolved? Or are you a peacemaker at any cost?

Finding harmony can create a stronger family bond, plus it’s good for you. Not only is being stress-free better for your mental health, but tension can affect your muscles, while rage can cause headaches and raise blood pressure.

Here’s how to end the sound of slamming doors for good – leaving you feeling healthier and happier so that you can enjoy your trip away.

Set boundaries Every family has disagreements, whether it’s arguing over where the car is parked at the airport or the choice of restaurant for an evening meal. ‘When you spend more time together, any differences will be a challenge,’ says divorce coach Sara Davison*.

To handle these conflicts better, set rules, such as no shouting, sulking and being disrespectful to one another. Then, whether you’re outraged that your teenagers’ manners are being criticised, or panicked that your grandkids are running riot, stay calm. You could agree on a signal. ‘A word or a gesture that says I don’t want to have an argument, but I’m feeling uncomfortable,’ suggests Sara. ‘Something to release that tension.’