Sex Q&A Blowout!

Honest answers to the private questions you can only ask Cosmo.

- Julie Vadnal

Q I keep having steamy dreams about my hot boss. Do I need to quit my job?  A Don’t start updating your LinkedIn just yet. “If you’re fantasizing safely in your head, there’s not a thing in the world wrong with that,” says certified dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg, author of Dream On It. “Sex dreams are often about a psychological connection, not a physical one.” Phew! So it may mean that you want to emulate your boss’s qualities. Or you could just be practicing in your mind: Loewenberg says that sultry reveries often help us explore untapped fantasies… without ever having to leave our beds.

Q Do libido boosting vitamins really work?

A Nope. The main ingredient in some of these hyped tablets is the hormone DHEA, which your body already makes and converts into the sex hormones estrogen and testosterone, says Lauren Streicher, MD, associate clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern’s Feinberg School of Medicine. But more DHEA does not equal horniness, and there’s not a shred of science behind these supplements. “A woman in her 20s or 30s has plenty of DHEA,” explains Dr. Streicher. “Making that tank fuller doesn’t help with sex drive.” Plus, these “vitamins” can be pricey— up to P1,500 a bottle! Save your cash, and get yourself in the mood in other ways, like keeping your stress levels in check, getting enough sleep, and trying out new sex positions that, ahem, give you a healthy dose of his vitamin D (sorry!).

 Q This is totally TMI, but I hate the taste of my guy. How can I enjoy oral more?