'I've Felt Lonely,sad, Jealous – And Loved'

In his final column, Jack * reflects on his adventures in polyamory…

It’s been 18 months since my wife, Lucy,* suggested polyamory as a way to save our marriage. Has it worked? The truth is, it has saved it, but it has also altered the fabric of it more than I ever thought it could.

Our relationship has changed from a union that was at constant risk of being ripped apart by infidelity to one that is enriched by new partners who are an important part of our lives. Being poly means things are always shifting.You barely have time to get used to the status quo before it all changes again. At first, particularly in the early stages, I found polyamory hard. It requires deep levels of trust and communication, internal battles with jealousy and an overhaul of ingrained notions of what makes a successful relationship.