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HAVE YOU LOST THAT LOVING FEELING AND FUNCTION MORE LIKE HOUSEMATES THESE DAYS? DON’T WORRY, THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO SPARK UP YOUR LOVE LIFE

- Andrea Childs

One of the joys of children growing up and leaving home is more between-the-sheets time – no sleepless nights worrying our teens will make it home safely from that party, or in the early years, listening for little footsteps outside the bedroom door. So why, instead of lighting candles and getting in the mood, are we talking about putting the bins out? Why, when we have more time to devote to our relationship than we have for years, are we wondering why our libido has gone AWOL?

“I spend a lot of my time reassuring clients that these feelings are completely normal,” says Denise Knowles. “In a long-term relationship, it’s no surprise that we slip into routines – not just around domesticity but also our sex lives.” But, according to the experts, this is a time of opportunity – not just to reclaim our relationship but also take it to new levels of sexual satisfaction.

Find your love language

People show love in five main ways, says Ben Edwards – with gifts, words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of devotion and quality time. “Think about what makes you feel loved and communicate it to your partner.” And remember that he may need to be shown love from you in a different way too – consider what he likes, not what would make you feel good.

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