All My Orgasms

As you live through new loves, breakups, long-term coupledom and parenthood, your O undergoes its own evolution. Follow our guide to maximising your pleasure at key points in your life.

- Elise Sole

THE FINALLY! ORGASM

It didn’t happen right away, but after some test runs, you finally made it over the edge with a new partner.

WHY IT’S AWESOME: Besides your shared victory? You’ve just cracked your O code with a new human being – which bodes well for the next romp... And the next.

HOW TO GET IT: Contrary to how orgasms happen in the movies (simultaneously and 36 seconds into the first time a couple has sex), real-life Os take practice. In fact, women had only a 32 percent chance of climaxing if they’d never hooked up with their partner before, but a 51 percent chance if they’d hooked up six times or more in the past, according to data analysed by Dr Justin Lehmiller, director of the Social Psychology Graduate Program at Ball State University. And up to two thirds of women don’t orgasm through intercourse alone – so add clitoral stimulation, whether it’s him going down on you or using his fingers or a vibrator (check out page 76 for a selection of nifty toys that will help you along).

Another known O killer? Your anxious inner monologue. Am I moving the right way? How does my tummy look? Getting out of your head and zeroing in on how hot this experience is – and how sexy your partner finds you – is key. “Try to focus on your breath, like in yoga or meditation,” says Dr Yvonne K. Fulbright, author of Touch Me There! Or lose yourself in the rhythmic motions – a new study from Northwestern University discovered that they create an altered state of consciousness in your brain, putting you in a sexual trance of sorts that can make it easier to climax.

THE LTR ORGASM

The sexiest part about being in a committed relationship? Your secure bond lays the groundwork for incredible orgasms.