What Is The Secret Of Fantastic Sex?

The secret to fantastic sex? It’s all about dispelling the fantasy.

- Jessica Martin

Your clothes fall away to reveal a seriously expensive set of silk lingerie. Your partner gently lays you down on the bed; flattering candlelight bathes your bodies, which also happen to be flawless. You both spend a few moments kissing sensuously (this is all you need to get in the mood) and, after about 45 seconds of thrusting, you throw your head back and have an orgasm so good, it’s likely the earth stopped spinning for a second. In the movies, this is how most sexual encounters go. So yeah, about that…

Great sexpectations

We’re pretty sure everyone will agreethat the reality of sex is very different from what Hollywood would have us believe. For starters, it’s a fact known to all women that on the magic day when the stars align and you’ve waxed your legs, are wearing decent underwear and your hormones are in check, you do not get to have sex. Instead, it’s when your limbs have gone stubbly, you’re pre-period bloat is in force and you’re down to your last (ratty) pair of clean undies that the universe decides you will get an opportunity to get laid. Hmmph.

So if we know that sex scenes in movies are all smoke and mirrors, why do we still have unrealistic expectations of how doing the dirty should playout? We want things to be tender, not awkward; passionate, not “Whatever you’re doing, can you please not”; and not to mention, there should be queensized helpings of mind-blowing orgasms every single time.