'It Hurt But I Had To Let My Autistic Son Go To Let Him Grow – And For My Own Safety'
The Singapore Women's Weekly|March 2019

Being separated from her son was a solution this mother had to resort to for the sake of the family. Here’s her honest, heartbreaking story on raising a child with autism.

- Natalya Molok
'It Hurt But I Had To Let My Autistic Son Go To Let Him Grow – And For My Own Safety'

It has been 24 hours and there is still no sign of Jean-Sebastien Choo since he stopped communicating with his parents. His mother, Choo Kah Ying, was worried sick until the call she had been waiting for finally came. It was the caretaker who was in charge of looking after her 22-year-old son all the way in Bali, Indonesia.

“I found him at home but he locked me out and refused to let me in for over two hours,” says the caretaker in frustration over the phone. “I don’t know how much longer I can go on caring for him when he’s like this.”

Kah Ying sighs. It is the same old story. Sebastien is autistic and she has been dealing with his erratic behaviour since he was diagnosed at just 18 months of age. She has become used to these meltdowns, which have become increasingly harder to manage as he grew from a shy little boy into an anxious young man.

After feeling threatened by her son’s growing physical strength and her inability to control his violent outbursts, Kah Ying made the difficult decision to send him away to Sari Hati School in Bali. It caters to children and young adults with mental and physical disabilities.

HEART-BREAKING SEPARATION

この蚘事は The Singapore Women's Weekly の March 2019 版に掲茉されおいたす。

7 日間の Magzter GOLD 無料トラむアルを開始しお、䜕千もの厳遞されたプレミアム ストヌリヌ、9,000 以䞊の雑誌や新聞にアクセスしおください。

この蚘事は The Singapore Women's Weekly の March 2019 版に掲茉されおいたす。

7 日間の Magzter GOLD 無料トラむアルを開始しお、䜕千もの厳遞されたプレミアム ストヌリヌ、9,000 以䞊の雑誌や新聞にアクセスしおください。

THE SINGAPORE WOMEN'S WEEKLYのその他の蚘事すべお衚瀺
The Singapore Women's Weekly

Ready To Zoom

Glow up and put your best face forward on video calls

time-read
1 min  |
August/September 2020
Caramel Eclairs
The Singapore Women's Weekly

Caramel Eclairs

Choux pastry is a French classic that transforms in the oven into airy puffs with a crisp exterior, ready to be filled and iced. It may seem a little daunting to make, but it’s easy with our step-by-step guide

time-read
2 分  |
August/September 2020
The Singapore Women's Weekly

Clear The Air

The quality of the air you breathe inside your home has a significant impact on your health. Here’s a look at managing indoor pollution

time-read
3 分  |
August/September 2020
How To Show More Compassion
The Singapore Women's Weekly

How To Show More Compassion

It’s an unhealthy habit that we often don’t realise we are doing. Ahead, some tips on how to show more compassion

time-read
1 min  |
August/September 2020
Resolving Conflicts
The Singapore Women's Weekly

Resolving Conflicts

Living in a digital age means that many of our social interactions are done online. However, reaching out and connecting with those around us is paramount, and even more so, with tough conversations. Ahead, experts share insights to help us navigate

time-read
7 分  |
August/September 2020
Mood For Mango
The Singapore Women's Weekly

Mood For Mango

Mango makes refreshing and satisfying sweet treats – perfect for relaxed entertaining

time-read
2 分  |
August/September 2020
The Singapore Women's Weekly

Dealing With The Unknown

If you’ve endured a few bumps and detours in the game of life, don’t be disheartened – these events might just make all the difference

time-read
7 分  |
August/September 2020
Our Different Butterflies
The Singapore Women's Weekly

Our Different Butterflies

Artist and art educator Saharra discusses the importance of art education as coping strategies for our young ones during these unprecedented times

time-read
3 分  |
August/September 2020
And Breathe
The Singapore Women's Weekly

And Breathe

The simple processes of inhaling and exhaling can aid sleep, beat cravings and reduce stress. A breathing expert explains how

time-read
5 分  |
August/September 2020
Great Women Of Our Time
The Singapore Women's Weekly

Great Women Of Our Time

Every year, we shine a light on 18 distinguished and powerful women in the Great Women Of Our Time Awards. They are women who are changing their field of work, and doing their best to improve life in Singapore – and the world.

time-read
10+ 分  |
August/September 2020