Plugging Emotional Gaps

Emotional distance in a relationship rarely develops overnight; expect that it will likewise require some time to rebuild that connection — gradual steps can help to reconnect

- Roopsha Dasguupta Ray

We are married for 7 months. It was an arranged marriage and I fear my wife is in a relationship. She isn’t accepting this and continues to be in touch with the guy. Should I allow her to do what she is doing or should I withdraw myself from the marriage before it gets dirty?

- Name withheld

Sometimes we imagine things to be true only because we feel it is. The reality could be far away from the imagination. I suggest, you be a friend to her and ask her what she expects you to do in the given situation. Explain your fear, express your insecurity to her and give her a chance to express her point. You both need to be great friends for the marriage to work. With time the bond should become stronger and she should know that you understand and love her. Don’t suspect her and make it worse. Let her know that you respect her decision and would support her. I strongly believe, she wouldn’t let you down. Good luck!