The Weight of Love

Telling your partner that their weight gain is starting to bother you can be difficult. But, does that mean your feelings are invalid? Zukiswa Dlamini gets expert advice.

- Zukiswa Dlamini

Weight is a sensitive topic for many people. Whether overweight, underweight or in the ‘normal’ range, a lot of people don’t appreciate having their weight scrutinised, especially by their partners. But, weight can be an issue in relationships and, like most issues, is not always easy to address. “Since attraction is often part of a romantic relationship, it makes sense that weight gain can affect it,” says Stephanie Miller, a counsellor who used to work at a weight-loss clinic.

So how do you tell your loved one if their weight is becoming a problem for you, without being insensitive?

REALITY CHECK

There are many reasons why people gain weight, including health issues, stress, overeating, inactivity and age. Figuring out why your partner is gaining weight is the first step to address the problem. “If someone is gaining weight because of medication, they need a lot more patience and support than someone eating fast food every day,” explains Stephanie.