"No" Is A Complete Sentence!

There is an unconsciously written screenplay, a written life plan, that every human being builds in his childhood. This life script is sometimes so detrimentally elongated or stretched even towards the end of one's life. This is regarding the so-called life positions or ok-positions that we credit to humans in the early stages of our lives. The standards you set determine the life you get!

- Dolly Maria

We start with may be even worshipping our immediate family members like our parents, elders, teachers, etc. They do tower tall over us physically and tell us what to do and what not to. These early years when your mind is infact a sponge that would be readily absorbing any information fed to you, makes a very convincing case with your brain that these people who tell you what is right to do, are infact the “OK” people, and that you are “Not Ok”. It’s the default position of every child. Transactional Analysis draws this conditions as Four Life Positions which are : I am Ok – You are Ok, I am Ok – You are not ok, I am ok – You are ok and I am not ok and You're not ok. Humans, knowingly or unknowingly create a picture in their heads of themselves, of others and of the world at very early stages of life. It depends upon what kind of situations you've been through in your childhood and how you have decoded it into your behavioral repertoire. Your brain records past experiences like a tape recorder, and unfortunately, many of us prefer to keep the favorite life position that you picked up at your adolescence.