WITH LOVE...

Life coach and author Jay Shetty gives advice on the nitty-gritty of real love and shares insightful details that capture the essence of his new book.

- SHUBHANGI JINDAL

Jay Shetty—the former monk-turned-global best-selling author, podcaster, and motivational speaker who set out to make wisdom “go viral,” is now rooting for all-encompassing love. “Like a million others, our views on love are misguided and heavily influenced by movies and portrayals of relationships that just aren’t realistic,” says Jay. Bit by bit, Jay’s narrative in the form of his new book, 8 Rules Of Love, pushes us towards thinking about one eternal question—what does real love look like?

“We have this idea that there is one perfect person for us, and when we meet them, it will be a fairy tale. Many of us grow up with these confusing concepts about love. But what we don’t get are the facts and the tools that can help us build successful relationships. I want to try and dispel some of those misconceptions and offer healthier, more accurate views on love.” Jay explains that it is human nature to be drawn to love stories, to long for one of our own to the extent that we think we need a ‘better half ’ to complete us. “Certainly, when you find someone you’re aligned with, they do enrich your life tremendously. But what we want is to be ‘whole people’, whether or not we’re with someone. It is essential to spend time in solitude. It’s only when we are alone that we really get to know ourselves and learn to enjoy our own company, because we’re not looking at someone else to validate us,” he adds.