
When I watch TV, I prefer to have the adverts muted. The lights in my home must give off a soft buttery glow, not the sterile, white glare of other bulbs, or else I just can't relax. I can write perfectly well to the thrash of a double-bass drum pumping through my headphones, but the incessant flutter of a pen being clicked will completely undo me. People can be tricky for me, too, because I am more porous than average; there are those I cannot stand to be around because their energy seeps in, recalibrating my emotions for the worse and others whose connection I crave because they fill me up with so much light.
I just have high levels of empathy, I tell myself.
I'm very particular when it comes to my home and my clothes - but aren't we all? I'm just so used to working on my own, that's why I really feel it when I'm around others, you know? Anything but admit to myself that the characteristics I've shared here (and many more!) point firmly to my being a highly sensitive person. So, why have I struggled for so long to come to terms with this? Frankly, it's because we make a values-based judgment on traits such as sensitivity, deeming it to be a weakness a hindrance that we must strive to overcome. But what if we have this all wrong? As uncomfortable as it may be at times, what if our sensitivity is, in fact, a strength?
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