How to Make the Most of Life

DAAJI explores the topic of destiny, including our own role in determining our future, as well as the roles other people, circumstances, and the environment play. He shares with us some practices and attitudes that help to make the most out of life.

What determines our destiny?

This is a fundamental question of existence. We all want to change our behavior so that our loved ones can resonate with us. And we also expect our loved ones to change their behavior so that we love them even more. Now, in order to understand human behavior, we first must understand how the conditioning of our behavior patterns came about. And also, can we break away from these patterns? Researchers study these things in a very limited way. For example, they study alcohol addiction, drug addiction, sex addiction, and other habits that become ingrained as the nervous system becomes hardwired.

I would like to focus on the way we develop vrittis, the activities and tendencies of the mind, and how we develop our prakriti, our individual nature, based on these mental activities. It eventually becomes our hardcore genetic nature, which determines our future. We can say that we create our destiny according to the tendencies we develop.

How do we create tendencies?

The first thing that contributes to our conditioning is environment. For example, say you had a love affair, and you loved that person very much but you broke up. After some time, you meet them again. How do you behave? Do you start fighting with them, or do you say, “I’m sorry it ended like that”? Are you nice, or does your mind become volatile when it is triggered by seeing the other person?