All the choices we make define who we are. But, how do you know you’re doing the right thing for yourself? Here’s a guide to help you make those life-changing decisions.
EMBRACING SELF-LOVE
Sometimes, abuse is subtle and difficult to discern in a relationship. According to US psychologist Dr John Gottman, there are four behaviours known to be highly toxic and destructive in relationships:
1 Criticism
This involves attacking the other person at the core of their character through distasteful name-calling and down-putting words – leaving the other assaulted, rejected and hurt.
2 Contempt
This occurs when one partner feels superior and smarter than the other – leading them to be mean and disrespectful. It can manifest in the form of eye-rolling or scoffing; mocking; ridiculing; sneering; snapping; or being sarcastic either in private or public settings.
3 Defensiveness
When a partner feels unjustly accused and criticised, they will react and play the victim in hopes the other would back off. At times, they could even reverse blame in an attempt to make it the other partner’s fault.
4 Stone-walling
This often happens as a response to contempt. When people feel overwhelmed by emotions, instead of confronting issues with their partner, they opt for the silent treatment and completely withdraw from communication – or they may become passive-aggressive, and avoid or cut off any form of physical or emotional affection.
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Beauty The Natural Way
With climate change rapidly threatening the future of Mother Earth, we urgently need to curb further acts of destruction. We speak to Law Hong Mei, founder of The Olive Tree, about building a beauty brand that is sustainable from the core.
Even Pets Need Tummy Care?
For many, keeping a pet is more than just caring for an animal; pets are family members, too. We speak to veterinary surgeon, Dr Wafaa Abdul Washefffrom Pets Corner Sdn Bhd, to find out how your pets can stay healthy with a suitable diet
The Healing Power Of Unconditional Love
There’s a saying that goes, “Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” For one woman, these words resonated deeply. An unlikely companion came into her life at her lowest point and changed everything.
YOU'VE GOT A FRIEND IN ME
“More than half of my time is spent with animals, but I enjoy it,” enthuses animal rescuer, Aileen Lee. The story of this selfless lady’s dedication and love for the fur kids she has saved will warm your heart.
MISSION: Catification
We discover why pet proofing your home ensures harmony and safety for both the owner and the cat.
THE ONE WHO'S TAKING ACTION
Best known for her extensively waitlisted Nina bag, Gabriela Hearst walks the talk when it comes to sustainable luxury. The New York-based designer shares her inspirations, dreams and resolutions for herself and her eponymous label.
BORN TO ENTERTAIN
YOU MIGHT RECOGNISE HER AS THE GENTLE AND LOVING MOTHER IN LEE CHONG WEI, THE BIOPIC OF THE BADMINTON LEGEND, OR THE VULNERABLE YET RESILIENT TEACHER IN WET SEASON, WHICH HIT THE CINEMAS IN MARCH. SOME OF US MAY HAVE SEEN YEO YANN YANN ON THE BIG SCREEN PLAYING VARIOUS CHARACTERS FOR MORE THAN A DECADE. STILL, SHE NEVER FAILS LEAVE HER AUDIENCE IN AWE OF HER ACTING PROWESS.
THE TRUTH BEHIND FAUX FUR
Is imitation fur still a feasible alternative in this modern, fashion-forward world? Nadhirah Othman uncovers how the fur industry – both real and fake – brings a detrimental impact to the well-being of our planet.
Surprising reasons WHY YOUR KID is under performing in school
You’re understandably frustrated that your child isn’t living up to her potential. But before you blame her attitude, check if these conditions are hindering her academically.
A PAWSITIVE' Life
Like in many parts of the world, pet culture has seen exponential growth in Malaysia. In this issue, Lorraine Chai discusses pet therapy, a method of treatment that is gaining traction, and also some of the pet trends you don’t want to miss out on.
