Turn Back The Clock & Reclaim Your Sex Life

No satisfaction in your long-term relationship? With a bit of practice, you can rediscover intimacy in ways you’ll really enjoy

- Andrea Childs

One of the joys of our children growing up and leaving home is more uninterrupted between the-sheets time – no sleepless nights worrying our teens will make it home safely from parties; or in the early years, listening for little footsteps outside the bedroom door. So why, instead of lighting candles and getting in the mood, are we talking about putting the bins out? Why, when we have more time to devote to our relationship than we have for years, are we wondering why our libido is AWOL?

“I spend a lot of my time reassuring clients these feelings are completely normal,” says Denise Knowles. “In a long-term relationship, it’s no surprise that we slip into routines – around domesticity but also our sex lives.”

According to experts, this is a time of opportunity – not just to reclaim our relationship, but to take it to new levels of sexual satisfaction. Put the bins out? No, thanks! We’re going back to bed…

Start small

“When our intimate relationship has cooled down, we may withdraw from physical contact because we fear it creates an expectation of sex,” says Denise. She suggests introducing a sense of connectedness without pressure to take it further. Hold hands, kiss on the lips instead of pecking on the cheek, cuddle on the couch.

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