The Lust Guru

Sex coach raquel savage is helping women, one orgasm at a time.

- Devon Preston

There’s a silent epidemic occurring in bedrooms around the world, and that’s the female orgasm, or lack thereof. According to Elisabeth Lloyd, a faculty scholar at the acclaimed Kinsey Institute, only 25 percent of women consistently orgasm from penetration alone and about five percent never orgasm — period. While five percent may seem like a small percentage, that’s approximately 188 million people. Luckily, there are experts out there who’re trained in helping both individuals and couples alike have healthy sex lives.

Enter Raquel Savage, a sex coach and sex worker who has dedicated her livelihood to helping women, one orgasm at a time. “The biggest demographic that I counsel is women and I help them explore their sexuality,” shares Savage, who holds a master’s degree in counseling and is board certified in human sexuality. “Most cisgender women that I speak to are having trouble reaching orgasm, whether that be individual women who are trying to figure it out on their own or women who are in relationships that are having trouble with their partners.”

But why is women achieving orgasms such a big issue? Biologically, male and female genitalia are created equally, with the head of the penis and the clitoris each containing approximately 7,000 sensory nerve endings. However, despite scientifically being on an equal playing field, women are statistically coming up short in the pleasure department. And for Savage, there are two factors which contribute to unequal distribution of orgasms. “I think there’s a lack of knowledge in terms of cisgender, heterosexual men understanding how vaginas work,” Savage explains. “Then there’s another piece, which is empathy and ethical sexual encounters not being a priority. They don’t really have the knowledge about vaginas and then they also don’t really care.”