How To ARGUE FAIRLY

Disagreements are inevitable, but when done right, they can make your relationship stronger

- AMBER BRAMBLE

You are bound to have disagreements with your partner, and these bumps in the road aren’t all bad. Not seeing eye-to-eye on everything is a sign of two unique individuals who are challenging each other’s perspective and will. This can be a healthy dynamic which helps you to learn and grow: not everything has to be a battle of wills about who’s right and who’s wrong.

While you might say you are constantly arguing over nothing, the truth is that there’s a lot going on under the surface. As you get to know the other person better, power struggles may increase – who needs to be right all of the time and who backs down first? It can become irritating when your partner doesn’t agree with you and is always contradicting or opposing you. That may be upsetting or make you angry, with thoughts turning to things like, ‘Perhaps he/she’s not so perfect after all,’ creeping in. Arguments and intense differences of opinion can be stressful and, depending on your personality type, might make you want to fight head on or withdraw to a corner.

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