J. Lo's CRY FOR HELP

She's lost everything! A distraught Jennifer Lopez melts down over her split with Ben Affleck

They couldn’t even bring themselves to touch lips. Ben Affleck greeted wife Jennifer Lopez with an air kiss when she met him at his 12-year-old son Samuel’s basketball game in Santa Monica on June 2. “It was so awkward,” says a witness. “They didn’t show any real affection like a normal married couple, but they had these big smiles on their faces, like they were faking it for the cameras.”

That’s exactly what they were doing, according to those close to the couple. “It’s definitely over between them,” says one source, adding that Ben “reluctantly agreed” to hold off on making a formal announcement at Jennifer’s request. The singer, who abruptly canceled her planned summer tour on May 31 amid dismal ticket sales and lukewarm reviews of her album and self-financed musical movie, This Is Me... Now: A Love Story, is “falling to pieces,” says an insider. “She’s lost everything. Between dealing with crisis management and intense heartbreak, she’s told friends she needs help.”