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The Intimacy Curator is a unique collective that offers dating and intimacy coaching for progressive Indians. Founder Aili Seghetti dishes on what it means to build community through kink

- NIDA NAEEM

Do you know what experiencing top drop means? What constitutes omorashi? Or that mummification is a fetish as well? I didn't, at least not before I started following The Intimacy Curator. Founded by Aili Seghetti, The Intimacy Curator provides queer-friendly dating, intimacy and relationship coaching services, with a focus on non-monogamy and kink.

Few things in India are as taboo as kink. Seghetti does the difficult work of educating audiences not just about lesser-known kinks, but also consent, navigating the dynamics of a dom/sub relationship, and even attachment styles and emotional fulfillment in relationships.

Trained in sex coaching in LA, Seghetti discovered that people wanted to discuss their relationship and bedroom-related issues in a non-judgemental zone, when she was working on brand strategy and market research for brands like Tinder.

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"I was speaking to actual consumers in India, and I found it fascinating how many people were non-monogamous. Even in many monogamous relationships, once the initial attraction wears off, people start introducing new things into their sexual life or even opening their relationships up," she says.

Once she founded The Intimacy Curator, her clients started asking her to organise meetups with other like-minded folks. When she put the word out about hosting a get-together of non-monogamous people, she was surprised by the sheer volume that showed up: "Suddenly, there were hundreds of them, and it became an event with 150 to 200 people."