Bearing a grudge can be bad for wellbeing – whether you silently simmer or outwardly rage after a row, dwelling on hurtful disagreements can lead to poor mental health. ‘Holding on to anger is a blocker to emotional functioning,’ says clinical psychologist Dr Jenna Vyas-Lee*. But that’s not all. The stress caused by unresolved feuds can be a risk factor for physical symptoms and health issues such as migraines, anxiety disorders and even heart health complications and strokes.
But forgiveness isn’t easy when you’re burning with fury, neither should you let others off the hook or be a doormat. So how should you handle rifts? Take our quiz and get the expert advice that will help you let go of resentment.
If somebody treats you badly, what do
you do?
- Cut them out of your life completely.
- Presume you must have caused it somehow.
- You’re wary of that person going forward.
- Try to focus on their more positive attributes.
How do you feel now about a big argument you’ve had in the past?
- You refuse to dwell on it – they said sorry.
- Ashamed. You wish you’d handled it better.
- You made up with the person, but often think about the row.
- You’re still furious about it.
Do you give people second chances?
Denne historien er fra April 08, 2024-utgaven av WOMAN'S OWN.
Start din 7-dagers gratis prøveperiode på Magzter GOLD for å få tilgang til tusenvis av utvalgte premiumhistorier og 9000+ magasiner og aviser.
Allerede abonnent ? Logg på
Denne historien er fra April 08, 2024-utgaven av WOMAN'S OWN.
Start din 7-dagers gratis prøveperiode på Magzter GOLD for å få tilgang til tusenvis av utvalgte premiumhistorier og 9000+ magasiner og aviser.
Allerede abonnent? Logg på
'SEEING MY NAME ON TV IS SURREAL'
Loose Women newbie Olivia Attwood Dack on joining the hit show, marriage and career goals
THE MISSING PIECE
My earliest memory of my older sister Priya wasn’t one where she was present, but rather, the realisation of her absence.
WEEKNIGHT WINNERS
Rustle up these tasty family dinners with just five easy ingredients
SMILING THROUGH CANCER
Like most mums, when my kids are upset I’ll do almost anything to turn their frowns upside down, whether it’s making Max, 11, his favourite chocolate cake or putting on silly voices for Georgia, eight, when she’s had a bad day at school.
BRAVERY AMIDST SUCH HORROR
The Woman's Own columnist has her say on dinner time, posh grub and wet summers
RELAX & RESET
For farm-to-table food and a game-changing spa, head for the dramatic Dolomites
HELP! I'M TURNING INTO MY MUM
As the years pass, Heather Main, 39, realises she’s inheriting more and more of her mother’s traits
I WAS MISTAKEN FOR MY HUSBAND'S MISTRESS!
When Gemma Loveden, 38, lost l6st, a family member was convinced she was someone else...
Denise confesses I'MA MORNING SEX PERSON'
Never one to mince her words, Denise Welch is much-loved by fans for her refreshing honesty.
Cat & Ben SNUBBED!
Are the This Morning hosts feeling disgruntled after missing out on an NTA nomination in favour of Alison?
