The power of FEMALE FRIENDSHIP

Self-confessed friendaholic Elizabeth Day tells us why these relationships are so vital- and we meet three women who cherish very special friends

- SHARON WRIGHT

My friends have been the greatest and most consistent loves of my life. They have seen me through heartbreak, grief, divorce and miscarriage. They have been there for me at my lowest points and have celebrated my happy moments – most often in a dimly lit karaoke bar singing Spice Girls at full throttle.

When I went through unsuccessful fertility treatment recently, my best friend Emma turned up on my doorstep bearing my favourite cup of jasmine tea from a local cafe. We sat and talked everything through. She did what she’s always done – made me feel heard and understood.

Yet for all that friendship has given me, I realised we don’t have a language to express what it means to us. So much of love over the centuries that vanishingly little attention has been paid to the power of platonic attachments. I wanted to change this. I wanted to provide a vocabulary that would give us a way to explain these unique and complex bonds. More than out what friendship really was and how different people approached it. That was the starting point for Friendaholic: Confessions of a Friendship Addict. In it, I examine my own addiction to friendship. I look at the history of friendship and how it’s represented in literature, from Anne of Green Gables to Elena Ferrante’s Neapolitan Quartet. And I interview my own friends about their experiences.