KEEP THE PEACE this Easter

If all of that family togetherness is causing tension, this expert advice may help

- Trudie McConnochie.

A long weekend with sweet treats and catch-ups with loved ones – what could be better? For some people, however, Easter gatherings with the extended family often mean tension and frustration.

Registered psychologist Rachel Tomlinson says many people feel pressure to tolerate behaviours or attitudes from loved ones at key events, such as Easter gatherings, that they wouldn’t otherwise accept. She recommends making a plan before you attend these events.

“In circumstances where relatives are renowned for making inappropriate comments or put-downs, it can be helpful to have some escape tactics and boundaries,” she says. “This could either be limiting time at the event itself or having ready-made and well-practised excuses so that you can rotate through spending a short amount of time with each family member.”

FOOD FACTOR

Whether it’s chocolate, hot cross buns or large family meals, Easter tends to revolve around food. This can be uncomfortable for those who are trying to lose weight or who have eating patterns that others might not understand (eg vegans). Because eating is a sensitive topic, Rachel recommends setting strong boundaries around what you feel comfortable discussing.