I Love My Wife And My Girlfriend

Jack * and Lucy * fall hard this month. Just not necessarily for each other

One of the clear “upsides” of polyamory, as I initially see it, is being given free rein when it comes to dating. On my first extramarital date, I was lucky enough to meet a woman also in a polyamorous set-up – Nell,* now my girlfriend. But that doesn’t stop me getting sucked into Tinder on a regular basis… swiping and swiping, clinging to the vague idea that something else is just around the corner. No one – not my wife, not my girlfriend – can stop me. I can have as many partners as I like! After all, we’re all poly now, right?

I end up on a date with a recent divorcee. A few weeks later I go on another date, this time with a driven career woman who’s looking to emigrate soon – and fascinated by the idea of multiple partners. Both meetings, though pleasant and friendly enough, lead precisely nowhere.