Single mom looking to dip her toe back in the dating waters? Read this first – then get the man you fancy to read it. This is stuff he needs to know!
For the bachelor not yet burdened with a family, few scenarios are as daunting as dating a single mother. You may have been with a woman who was close to her family. You may have had to explain yourself to an overprotective father or brother, shotgun in hand. You may have had to bear the impossible weight of maternal expectations, but nothing, I repeat nothing, can prepare you for the challenge of dating a single mother.
The game is not the same
Most men are conditioned with the impulse to treat dating like a hunt, a topic for another article but pertinent to the one at hand. In our subconscious, we connect to our primordial heritage via the modern ritual of seeking out a partner for life, or for tonight.
The metaphor of man as predator and woman as prey may seem crude but at the end of the day, many believe it. Because in order to succeed at dating, we have to impress the woman, or conquer her, so that she can choose us as a partner. The entire procedure is not as far removed from a courting scene on Animal Planet as we may think.
The twist is that, everything being equal, women have the power to decide whether the dating light is green or red. Male power is an illusion because it is granted to us by the female. If we push the magic buttons, the door opens. Check your masculine pride at the door and acknowledge that truth.
This story is from the May 2018 edition of TRUE LOVE Magazine East Africa.
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