Performance anxiety is something that only happens to people with penises, right? Incorrect. Time to stop deflating your desires. Here’s how.
There’s a tongue on your clitoris. It knows its way around your vulva like David Attenborough knows his chimpanzees, and nerve endings are firing. So why haven’t you come yet? You haven’t been counting the minutes, but if your partner was working their way through the alphabet, you suspect they’d be reaching Q by now – M, at the very least. You cast your eyes downwards, a reassuring glance that says, “I’ll come soon, I swear.” But surfing a wave of pleasure isn’t easy when you’re wondering when your last wax was, how badly their jaw must be aching and what the view is like down there. It’s female performance anxiety (FPA), and it’s a sure thing to keep you from coming.
“It’s anxiety about coming or not being able to come,” confirms sexologist Dr Gloria Brame. The anxiety trigger could be that you’re fretting about taking too long to climax, whether you’re doing sex ‘right’, or a lingering issue with your partner.
This story is from the September 2019 edition of Women's Health Australia.
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