Sex Q+A

Honest answers to your most private questions

- Julie Vadnal

Q. When I masturbate, I usually do it lying down. How can I switch it up?

A. ‘Try flipping over onto your stomach,’ suggests sexologist Megan Stubbs. ‘This lets your breasts and belly experience a different tactile sensation.’ Or take your one-woman show to the bathroom for a naughty bath. Position your legs so that they’re straddling the flow of warm water coming from the tap, or aim your detachable showerhead to stream across your sensitive spots... like a gentle trickle over your clitoris,’ says Stubbs. Now that’s fresh.

Q. I’ve put on some weight and it’s really affecting my bedroom confidence. How can I feel sexier?

A. Many women feel like this at some point in their lives, so cut yourself some slack. ‘While it’s good to have ideals in life, some physical ones can drive us crazy with anxiety and shame,’ says sex therapist Susan Block, PhD. One thing you can do starting tonight is focus on what you’re feeling (pleasure-wise), rather than what you look like. A few more tips: Try rocking some cute lingerie, hooking up by candlelight or testing new positions that make you feel like a goddess. In the long term, recognise that a change in your size or shape is not going to alter your sexual ability or your enjoyment. Trust us!