One of my biggest life lessons is that you never actually ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one, writes GH columnist Susan Hayden.
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Today is the first day of my dad’s birthday month, and it’s also the first time in my adult life that I won’t be messaging my mom to say, ‘What does Dad want for his birthday?’ Though, funnily enough, on his last birthday I broke with tradition and asked him directly. His answer was, ‘I don’t know, darling. Ask your mother.’ Which is pretty funny, and sums up the way their marriage worked. It’s been a strange and difficult year for our family. The first 12 months after losing someone you love is a bit like an obstacle course where you try to make it through the family-oriented celebrations – Easter, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas – in one piece. These occasions are not the same, and they never will be again.
This story is from the December 2017 edition of Good Housekeeping South Africa.
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