Let's Heal The Pandemic Of Loneliness First
The MAN|August 01, 2020
Is there a formula to a happy, healthy relationship? Yes and no. There is a framework, but within that framework, you will have to find your own dynamic, fluid balance
Shayamal Vallabhjee
Let's Heal The Pandemic Of Loneliness First

By Shayamal Vallabhjee

Sports scientist, psychologist, healer and a leadership coach, Shayamal Vallabhjee is the author of BreatheBelieveBalance, published by Pan Macmillan India

BEFORE you read this article, take out a minute to list down the five people closest to you? (Friends and family included). Now, remove the names of your family members. Why? Because our commitment to them is often a matter of obligation and not choice. For the purposes of this article, we will focus on the relationships you choose.

Now, answer these questions: 1. How many people do you have on your list?; 2. How many of them are your source of nourishment?; 3. Do they add value to your life: financially, emotionally, spiritually, or socially?; 4. How many of them would you call when you are emotionally down?; 5. On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate the quality of your interactions with them?

In my book, Breathe Believe Balance, I introduce you to the Concept of Balance and the four components that constitute it: Body, Mind, Relationships and Environments. A healthy relationship is such an integral component for optimal functioning, it was important to name it as a foundational pillar in the Balance Model. The world today is plagued with a pandemic called Covid 19. The truth is, a far deadlier pandemic has plagued us for much longer. The pandemic of loneliness. According to former surgeon general of the US, loneliness shortens a lifespan in a way similar to smoking fifteen cigarettes a day, and it increases your risk of mortality by 26 per cent. That’s even more than depression and anxiety.

This is where the reality gets scary. Loneliness is the result of having no meaningful connections — not even one.

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