Why Women Ghost

It’s not them. It’s you!

- Swapna C

Women don’t ghost because ghosting is easy. Well, yes, it is easier to ghost than to have the break-up talk. And that is why it is a go to option for most millennials. But to be fair they were never about to launch into an explanation anyway. Most of them would have otherwise just dropped a text, if it didn’t fizzle out automatically. But, for women who prefer to talk and have closure, ghosting is not their first choice. At least not at the beginning.

However, experience shows them that delete-and-block is the only option and not just a better alternative in some cases.

WHEN NO IS NOT ENOUGH

Dr Anupama is in her 40s and prefers to ghost when she is not interested or not comfortable about answering questions. She confesses that it is because she doesn’t want to repeat her past experiences where she has had difficult conversations and later felt it would have been better to simply block.

Having been on and off on dating apps for a while, she has had many outrageous matches but the one thing that is constant are the guys who despite campaigns like “#NomeansNo”, refuse to accept it.

“A year after I told a guy that we are not a match, he messaged and asked me if I’d like to pursue a relationship. It was awkward to say no again. And then again. And again. Finally, I had to lie and say I am in a relationship. And thenhe asked why I was on Tinder and whether it was an open relationship. By the end of it all I lost any and all respect I had for him and was disgusted enough to block him.”

Unfortunately, the story didn’t end there. The guy still sends her likes on dating apps. As a paid member on Tinder, she can see his likes and now she wishes she had never met him.