Online Dating: What Women Really Want

We are inundated with dating apps, and ‘sliding into DMs’ on Instagram, but it didn’t come with a book of rules, so bestselling author and modern day Cupid, ANDI LEW, wrote one. In it, you’ll learn that being on #teamsingle ain’t so bad and hear about her four years of going undercover to research this timely title. In this edited extract, she reveals what women, finding love on social media, really want…

- Andi Lew

So, what do you get out of chatting to loads of people and flirting away? You’ve got lots of interest and you’re having fun. You may even be starting to feel more confident. The main thing to remember is that at some point, you will actually start to tire of the flirting or dating merry-go-round. You may want to STOP and actually take the time to invest emotionally in one person. Dating is a numbers game and on social media, it really does have the best odds. The more people you meet and ‘get through’, the more you are going to learn about life, relating to others and understanding more about yourself until you finally meet a date worth keeping or are at a time in your life where you would like to try and give something a real go. This is eventually and inevitably going to happen. Let’s look at the reasons why…

You are investing too much time into flirt-chatting and you want to put your time and energy into something else. Perhaps you have a new job or want to study. You may have a hobby or sport you want to take up and you decided the hours used flirt-chatting could now be better spent elsewhere for a while.

You may decide you’re not connecting with anyone online and want to try and meet people face-to-face because you know you can get better rapport with someone in the flesh. At this point you will either make plans to meet with someone you have been chatting to or just wait for fate to happen with in the outside world! Just remember to look up and around and not down at your device!

At this point you may start to invest in one person. Some can play for months or years, but when you decide to invest in one person and create something more real than a chat from a distance, you will get off the social media carousel for a while.