If Neil Seaman had made a different decision at the age of 21, his life might have ended up in another place entirely. He was reeling in unspeakable grief, completely broken by the loss of his girlfriend Francine – the girl he believed was “the one” – in a horrific road accident that had also claimed the life of her grandmother. Neil had been behind the wheel; the accident was the fault of a drunk driver.
It was a Sliding Doors moment, and Neil knew he had a choice to make. He could let the grief and remorse destroy him, putting paid to any idea of a romantic future. Or he could mourn Francine and finally learn to move on, while never forgetting the love they’d once shared.
He took the second path, and today Neil is a father of three well-adjusted teenagers. While his marriage of 15 years to their mother, Sally Ward, ended four years ago, it did so amicably, with the pair now the best of friends. Sally has since gone on to find new love.
Happily ensconced in his dream job on the family farm in Crookwell, NSW, Neil is now ready to do the same. Which is what led the 43-year-old to sign up for the new season of Farmer Wants a Wife, encouraged by his kids, his ex, his parents, his friends and his extended family.
“I’ve got a pretty good package,” he explains of why he’s ready for this new adventure. “My kids are older and they’re all fine, they’ve got their own lives now. I’ve got a career set up. All the things that were distractions aren’t distractions anymore. I’ve never been more stable in many ways. But I was by myself. And I thought, ‘I don’t really want to be alone anymore. I just want to be with someone who has life experience and who’s willing to roll with the punches with me.’”
This story is from the August 2020 edition of The Australian Women's Weekly.
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