don't make a lot of goals because it's hard to do things that are different from what you are currently doing. It's also embarrassing when you fall short, especially when that shit is easy.
Drink more water? Can't do it. Go to bed earlier? But what about my shows? Give up sugar? Not possible. Save more money? But what about buying stuff? Learn a new skill? Where and also how and also with what brain? Get organized? But I love mess. Lose weight? Is there a pill for that, and if so can I take it in cheese like a dog? Eliminate bad habits? Who would I be without them? Have compassion for myself? But I'm a dumbass who sucks at everything and is unworthy of love.
I don't have a lot of coping mechanisms that aren't wholly self-destructive, but here is one good one that I will recommend: saying I like things that I like.
ONE OF THE TOOLS that people who are shitheads use to make people who are not feel like shit is the casual dismissal of things those people like. They say things in a way that makes you feel like you have to apologize for liking them, that puts you on the defensive, that sends you down an internal spiral, thinking, "Why do I like the dumb shit I like?" and questioning your entire life's history of tastes and choices, all because you had the nerve to... express enjoyment of something mundane.
Or the interaction can go something like this:
Me: I thought [name of innocuous movie] was good!
Them (feigning shock): You did? I thought it was sophomoric garbage with no character development and an implausible ending.
This story is from the April 2023 edition of Harper's BAZAAR - US.
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