How to deal with narcissism?

For many holidays could mean having to bear with narcissistic relatives. But dread not as we suggest ways to steer clear or minimise these 'meet and greet' sessions

With the holiday season here, streets are filled with festive sparkles, twinkling lights and cheerful Christmas songs and holiday movies. While many of us are looking forward to spending the holiday period with family and friends, this holiday and festive spirit is anything but jolly for others.

Some people are dreading to spend the period without loved ones. Others are fearful of spending it in the company of their extended family and relatives. Will your cousin provoke heated arguments at the dinner table again, outright bullying others and refusing to consider their perspective? Will your dad bring extravagant gifts and criticise others for their presents that he deems are inadequate? Will your aunt steal the show and make it all about her?

Such behaviour is Common in narcissism, a personality trait which we all exhibit to various degrees. Narcissistic people have an insatiable need for attention and validation. They feel entitled to special treatment, are unable to empathise with others, exploit people to boost their own self-esteem and display controlling and manipulative behaviour.

It is not surprising, therefore, that many with narcissistic family members and relatives come to dread the holiday season. The good news, hopefully, is that this holiday season does not need to crash and burn into discord and frustration.